1. He’s dashingly handsome but not very smart
Sometimes those good looks can be deceiving. Handsome doesn’t go very far when it comes to having to
pay the rent, unless he lands the lead in a hit movie, but if he’s not too smart he won’t be able to learn
the lines so don’t count on that. However, if you find a guy who is both handsome and smart, then grab
him quick and consider yourself a lucky girl. But wait, how can you tell if he’s smart? Here are a few clues:
He has at least some higher education — academic or technical — that has or is preparing him for
productive employment.
He can carry on an intelligent conversation with you about world and national events.
He’s wise with his money. Not a penny pincher, but smart about paying his bills and saving in case
economic hard times hit.
2. He’s lazy
The odds are if he’s lazy now, he’ll be lazy after you marry him. If you think you have the power to turn
on his latent work genes, you are sadly mistaken. What you see is what you get. Wise women who are
looking for the right man to marry have been watching what has happened to their friends and the men
they married. If a man is not motivated to work hard now, that’s a sure sign he needs to be passed over
by you. The ability and desire to consistently earn a paycheck is one of a good man’s most desirable
qualities.
3. He drinks too much
This can be a disaster. If he can’t control his drinking now, he’s on the way to becoming a debilitated
drunk later. Is that what you want? Read up on the behavior of men who drink too much and you’ll find
divorce courts full of the women they abuse. This applies to those who are addicted to drugs as well.
Avoid these kinds of men vehemently.
4. He makes you feel less than adequate
If he’s always criticizing you and finding fault with the way you do things, that’s a huge red flag. If the
man you’re with doesn’t make you feel of worth, ditch him quick. Run, don’t walk. Whatever he’s doing to
you now will only increase in the future. Too many women have become doormats to domineering men
who make themselves feel powerful by diminishing their mates. A good man will praise you, be proud of
you for your accomplishments, and rejoice in the good that is happening in your life. You will become more
because of how he treats you. That’s what good mates do for each other.
5. He is disrespectful to his mother and others
It has been said that it’s a good idea to look at how a man treats his mother because there is a high
probability that this is how he will be treating you in the long term. If the man you are attracted to is
disrespectful to others, no matter how he treats you now, later you will become one of his disrespected
victims. Sometimes a guy can shine when he’s dating—put on a fancy front to impress you—then the true
colors come out when you’re in a more committed relationship. Don’t let his actions fool you. Just know
that if he treats others, especially his mother, disrespectfully, that’s how he’s likely going to treat you as
time goes on.
Too many women get caught up in the I-can-fix-the-bad-boy mode. Avoid that trap like the plague. Don’t
marry a fixer-upper. It doesn’t work. Date guys who are already in the groove of being a good guy. If you
are in the good-girl groove yourself, you have a far better chance of attracting the good guys. Be the kind
of quality person you want your man to be.
